when james baldwin said “you think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. it was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive.” I felt that big, big time
every time a woman talks about getting cosmetic surgery lip fillers botox buccal fat removal PREVENTATIVE botox labiaplasty rhinoplasty any of the plastys i feel like i’m being sucked down a fucking storm gutter. it’s so bleak and it’s so grim and it’s so profoundly upsetting. here’s how to sleep so you don’t get wrinkles! here’s how to laugh and smile so you don’t get wrinkles! here’s this horrifically over involved skincare routine that you should start as a teenager to prevent any indication that you’ve lived a life free from the omnipresent fear of being observed and subsequently found lacking! you are empowering yourself by constantly placing every piece of your body into separately managed boxes of routines and standards! this should be your hobby! your body is not just for you! the world is entitled to dictate how you look and how you feel about yourself and the unattainable goals are always changing and you will never ever rest! but you should get more sleep! don’t look old! look fresh! be fuckable! be cool! make this look low effort! don’t be high maintenance! your earlobes are ugly! you’re ugly! you’re so beautiful! beauty is everything! beauty is worth! self consciousness is so unattractive! make the other women in your life feel inhuman for not sticking to the rules as well as you have! this is a sisterhood! this is a direct competition! kill the competition! support women! other women are doing it wrong! don’t be like other women! be the best woman! we’ll stop punishing the best woman! i’m going to be fucking sick on myself.
i’m not saying anything that hasn’t been said or thought a million hundred thousand times before. but you will not be exempt from the exhaustion and stress of existing as a woman by A) trying to constantly prove that you’re one of the nebulously shifting Worthy ones or B) pulling other women back down into the bucket with you. and i think anyone who tries to tell you about the relative value or use of your own body should be torn to shreds in front of a crowd of thousands.
it’s so weird when people post about some recent event - for example, the recent (and likely inflated) stats about people signing up for netflix after they throttled account sharing - specifically to blame the people on this website for it. “great job you guys.” “you guys better not xyz.” my friend. there is a vast and vibrant world outside this website, and the people there also make plenty of bad decisions
interesting post but it fails to mention any of my favorite colors, biomes, or chemicals so i will not be liking or reblogging it at this time. looking forward to the revised edition
